Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to become angry.
Have you ever wanted to be a detective and solve mysteries? What is the difference between a great detective and a lousy detective? That's easy. The difference is in jumping to conclusions. Here's an example:
"Oh detective! I need your help! My brand new soccer ball has been stolen!"
What does a lousy detective say? "Okay, I'll find the thief and your soccer ball."
What does a brilliant detective say? "How do you know that your ball was stolen and not lost or misplaced?"
"Well, detective, I remember seeing my brother by the soccer ball. The next thing I knew, the ball and my brother were both gone."
The lousy detective says, "Good. We've got a suspect. I will catch your brother the thief and return the ball to you." The brilliant detective has lots of questions. "When was this? Where? What were you doing before? After? Have you talked to your brother?" No conclusions until lots of questions have been answered.
Actually, being a brilliant detective is a lot like being a Christian. God tells us that when we jump to conclusions about other people, we are often wrong. We also hurt other people's feelings when we accuse them without knowing all the facts. The Bible says that Christians should "take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry." (James 1: 19)
The next time you think you know what's going on and are ready to get mad at someone, stop. Put on your brilliant detective's hat. Don't jump to conclusions or to anger. Ask some more questions. You just might be surprised at the mystery you solve and the feelings you save!