Closer Than A Brother


Community-Building: A real friend.


Saying the memory verse together at suppertime will imprint it on the hearts of your children forever.

Proverbs 18:24

There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.


One of the pains of parenting is when a child becomes the object of someone else's mean spirited teasing or is excluded from a group. We want to shield our children from this, to keep them from ever feeling the loneliness of being ostracized. But we may never know when our child experiences this-they may never tell us. That is why it is so important to spend one-on-one time with each of your children and to ask questions that give them permission to tell you their hurts as well as their accomplishments. However, it is important to ask the right questions. "How was your day?" allows them to give you a one word answer. ("Fine" seems to be the answer of choice for most, even when the day hasn't been fine at all.) But "Tell me one thing that made you feel good today" and "Tell me one thing that made you feel bad" may elicit just the kind of answers that allow you to sympathize, affirm, and offer words of comfort from the Bible.


How well did you listen to the story?

Q. What are the names of the girls who mean to Lucille?
A. Jen and Tiffany.

Q. Why were the kids teasing Lucille by quacking?
A. Because Lucille's shirt had a picture of a duck on it.

Q. What did O. W. mean?
A. Oh, wow.

Q. How did the police find the girls who egged Lucille’s house?
A. They looked for a bike with glow-in-the-dark tassels attached to the handlebars.


This question is meant to help the children develop a biblical understanding of God, who He is and what He does. The "answer" is not meant for parents to read to their children. Rather its purpose is to assist parents in guiding the conversation to this biblical understanding. We encourage you to use an open Bible in this conversation, building biblical literacy and well as a biblical theology.

Who is the “friend that sticks closer than a brother”?
Jesus has told us that he will never leave us or forsake us (Matthew 28:20, John 14:23). This might also be an occasion to talk about the incarnation-how Jesus became human like us so that he could truly sympathize with the human experience (Hebrews 2:18, 4:15). Jesus is not surprised by our weaknesses; he does not abandon us to our sin. Even brothers and sisters may forsake us, especially when we sin against them. But Jesus does not. Instead he sticks closer than a brother or sister. Jesus stays with us and cares so much about us that he gave his life so that we can always be in his family. Psalm 23 is another expression of Jesus' faithfulness to us.


Is there someone you know who needs a friend? Look for ways to encourage your child to be an invitational community builder. When we see people being hurt by other people, what is God calling us to do to be a justice-seeker?
This page can be found at