Justice-Seeking: Keeping Secrets
Saying the memory verse together at suppertime will imprint it on the hearts of your children forever.
Those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.
Keeping a secret. This can be really hard, can't it? When my husband and I hear that we have a new grandbaby on the way, we can't wait to tell our friends and family. But, this really isn't our news to share, so we have to wait for the parents to tell us when and to whom we may tell the good news.
Sometimes secrets are hard to keep because we want to get back at someone who has hurt us. We can barely squelch the desire we have to smudge their reputation. But that isn't right either, is it? The Bible tells us to forgive and to turn the other cheek. Not easy to do when our face is already hurting because of someone's intemperate talk about us or our family.
But there are also times when secrets need to be told, especially when those secrets are harmful to someone. This seems to be especially applicable to kids who may be asked to keep a secret about destructive behavior of their friends, something that really needs to be brought to the attention of adults who care for them.
One thing we are not to keep a secret is the good news of Jesus Christ. When someone asks about our secret-let it be the secret to our joy, our faith, our hope-and let not be a secret, but the proclamation of our lives and tongues to a world that is always looking for the secret to a happy life.
JUST THE FACTS
How well did you listen to the story?
Q. What did Liz have to keep secret?
A. His sister Linda's surprise birthday party.
Q. What was Lucille’s secret?
A. That her dad was considering a new job.
Q. What secret did Lucille promise not to tell?
A. hat Liz and Spike were going to fish in the Dead Lizard swamp.
Q. Why didn’t Lucille keep this secret?
A. Because she was worried that Liz and Spike would get hurt.
This question is meant to help the children develop a biblical understanding of God, who He is and what He does. The "answer" is not meant for parents to read to their children. Rather its purpose is to assist parents in guiding the conversation to this biblical understanding. We encourage you to use an open Bible in this conversation, building biblical literacy and well as a biblical theology.
What two questions should you ask yourself when you are trying to decide whether to keep a secret?
If I tell this secret, will someone be hurt? If I don't tell this secret, will someone be hurt?
Samson, Esther, and the Wise Men are three examples of people who kept secrets. What kind of secrets did they keep? Were they right or wrong to keep their secrets?
Samson (Judges 16) kept the secret of his strength from his enemies. When he finally gave in and told Delilah the secret of his strength, she was able to subdue him. Esther kept the secret of her race (Esther 2) from the king. But when the time was right she told the secret and she was able to save her people from destruction. The Wise Men (Matthew 2) kept the secret of Jesus' home from King Herod. By doing so they saved Jesus' life.
What is one thing we should not keep a secret?
The good news of the gospel (Matthew 28:19,20).
SO WHAT?What are some secrets that you shouldn't keep? What should you do when someone tells you a secret that you know isn't right? Who can you tell?
When your friends are doing something dangerous, something that can hurt themselves and others, you need to tell your parents. They can then help you figure out what to do with your secret.