The Great Divide


Community-Building: Asking questions about divorce.


Saying the memory verse together at suppertime will imprint it on the hearts of your children forever.

Galatians 5:13

Serve one another in love.


When God established marriage, he meant it to be a life-long commitment between a man and a woman (Genesis 2:20-24). That’s because God knows (and modern research bears this out) that the best environment for a child is a family with a dad and a mom. One reason for this is that God wants children to learn about him and to become followers of Jesus. The family is the best place for this to happen. It is harder for single parents, simply because they have so much responsibility, and so many demands on their time, that discipling their children becomes that much more difficult. It’s not impossible to raise children as a single parent—but it is harder, harder than God meant parenting to be.

Providing a home where the parents have bedrock of commitment to God and to each other lets children do the important developmental tasks they must to become healthy, functioning adults. The best marriage advice I received came from my mother who gave me this Bible verse, “Serve one another in love.” When we do this, our homes become a safe, secure environment where children can grow up to be healthy adults who follow Christ.


How well did you listen to the story?

Q. Who did Lucille interview for an article in the newspaper?
A. Poet Thatcher McManus

Q. Where is Lucille’s dad working?
A. River City

Q. Who goes with Lucille to River City?
A. Liz

Q. Why does Lucille want to go see her dad?
A. She is afraid that her parents are going to get a divorce.


This question is meant to help the children develop a biblical understanding of God, who He is and what He does. The "answer" is not meant for parents to read to their children. Rather its purpose is to assist parents in guiding the conversation to this biblical understanding. We encourage you to use an open Bible in this conversation, building biblical literacy and well as a biblical theology.


If the Bible says that God “hates” divorce, does that mean that God hates divorced people?


God’s love for us is not based on our behavior; it is based on his character (Romans 5:8). But because God loves us, he does give us guidelines for behavior that will enable us to live the abundant life that he created for us. One of those guidelines is to consider marriage a life long relationship of love and faithfulness. But this is not a reality for many. The parable of the Prodigal Son shows us the heart of God when his children wander away from God’s divine directives. God doesn’t cut us off, but rather watches for our return with eager anticipation (Luke 15). God hates the sin and brokenness that surrounds divorce—broken promises, shattered families, and needy children. But God doesn’t hate the people involved in divorce—instead God loves and offers his healing grace to parents and children who struggle with divorce and its effects.


Who can you serve in love today? Your mom? Your dad? Your brother or sister? Your grandfather or grandmother? Your friend? Do one loving thing each day for each of the people in your family this week.
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