What Not To Wear

THEME

Idolatry-Discerning. Our fashion creativity.

MEMORY VERSE

Saying the memory verse together at suppertime will imprint it on the hearts of your children forever.

1 Timothy 2:9

And I want women to be modest in their appearance.  They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothing.

NOTES

There are many role models that are harmful and destructive. The dumb blonde is a negative and destructive gender stereotype, as is the dumb jock. How about the slacker gamer? Today committing a crime and having jail time can be seen by some as being cool. Where in our culture are the following values taught: modesty, scholarship, integrity, civility, altruism, sportsmanship, responsibility, self-discipline?

To become an adult, a child must have a role model. But that role model doesn’t have to be the parent. In fact, ideally the role model shouldn’t be only the parent. Even if your child has a strong parent or parent figures in his/her life, he/she also needs a community of adults who together can provide that child with varied models of what productive adults do. Who are the other women in your daughter’s life that provide her with varied models of what productive adult women do? In addition, don’t forget that older teens are models too. If all these older teens talk about is going to the bars and putting down church, think of how that will shape your child’s thinking.

But the typical North American teenager doesn’t hang out with middle-aged adults. The typical North American teenager hangs with other teenagers. When adults choose largely to neglect the critical task of enculturing the young, the young are left on their own to discover the social meaning of their sexuality. And if boys and girls don’t have a definition about being a man or being a woman, advertising and media and music tells them. Manhood is marketed. Grand Theft Auto and Axe Body Spray and latest band or hip-hop group define what a man is if you don’t. But what about the girls? The culture of the marketplace teaches girls to value themselves in terms of their appearance, not in their own eyes but the eyes of boys and other teen girls.


JUST THE FACTS

How well did you listen to the story?

Q. What’s the name of the store that Lacey likes?
A. The store’s name is Rattitude.

Q. Why does Lucille’s mom not want Lucille to dress like she’s older?
A. When you dress older, peoples expect you to be older - and that may cause problems you’re just no ready for.

Q. Where does Lucille go before she goes to school? Why?
A. She goes to Lacey’s house to change her clothes.

Q. Who asked Lucille to join the Iguanas?
A. Franco asked her.

Q. With the babysitting money, what does Lucille want to buy?
A. She wants to buy a CD player.

GOOD QUESTION

This question is meant to help the children develop a biblical understanding of God, who He is and what He does. The "answer" is not meant for parents to read to their children. Rather its purpose is to assist parents in guiding the conversation to this biblical understanding. We encourage you to use an open Bible in this conversation, building biblical literacy and well as a biblical theology.

Q.

Explain how the Bible text below applies to everyone: men, women, girls and boys.

1 Timothy 2:9 “And I want women to be modest in their appearance.  They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothing.”

A.

When we make choices about our clothes, we are making creative choices that show other people who we are. Because many of us like comfort, we may choose clothing that help us relax. Sometimes, we need to dress up to show that we appreciate the place where we are going or the people with whom we are. We cannot make idols out of our appearance by spending too much time and too much money on our fashion choices and appearance. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, my friends, keep your minds on whatever is true, pure, right, holy, friendly, and proper. Don’t ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise.”


SO WHAT?

Collect at least ten ads or commercials that show what advertisers think the following look like: 1. young teen girls (5 ads) 2. young teen boys (5 ads) Talk with a family member or friend about the following questions: Do these teens behave like you and your friends? Describe how these teen characters are similar to you. Describe how they are different from you.
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