Who Needs A Best Friend?


Community-Building: Being a good friend.


Saying the memory verse together at suppertime will imprint it on the hearts of your children forever.

John 15:13,14

Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.


It was in third grade that I lost my relationship with my first best friend. On the first day of school we learned that we would not have the same teacher, which meant that we would be in different classrooms. Although we stayed friends, we lost the intimacy of having the same classmates and teacher and we gradually drifted into new friendships. Everybody needs a best friend. Perhaps one of the hardest lessons of friendship to learn is that most friendships don't stay the same and don't last forever. People move, or change, and the things that provided a basis for a friendship aren't there any more.

Having a best friend is so important to children. A best friend is someone to confide in, someone who will always stick up for them, someone to eat lunch with, and play with at recess. A friendship gives a child a place to belong. Inevitably children will hit rough patches in friendship. But knowing Jesus as their friend can give them the strength and courage to be alone, and to find new friends.


How well did you listen to the story?

Q. What assignment did Miss Wattle give to Liz and his class?
A. To write an essay about their best friend.

Q. Why did Liz and Lucille have so much trouble with this assignment?
A. Because they were told they couldn’t pick each other to write about.

Q. How did Lucille try to find a new best friend?
A. She tried to be like Lacey, then like Chamy, and then like Marci.

Q. What did Granny tell Liz and Lucille?
A. That they can have more than one best friend, and that they can’t make themselves into someone they are not just to make a friendship.

Q. Who did Granny tell them would always be their best friend?
A. Jesus.


This question is meant to help the children develop a biblical understanding of God, who He is and what He does. The "answer" is not meant for parents to read to their children. Rather its purpose is to assist parents in guiding the conversation to this biblical understanding. We encourage you to use an open Bible in this conversation, building biblical literacy and well as a biblical theology.


How can Jesus be our friend? Can you think of ways Jesus is a friend to you?


Sometimes it can seem presumptive to call Jesus, our Savior and Lord, our friend. In fact, we wouldn’t do it if he himself hadn’t called himself our friend. Jesus’ friendship is the most costly kind—a friendship that is forged in the sacrifice of his life for ours. But it also comes at a cost for us. Jesus says he is our friend, if we do what he commands. And, what does he command? Matthew 22:37-39 sums it up for us: Love God and love our neighbor.


Find a way to show your friends that you appreciate them. Perhaps it's a smile. Perhaps it's inviting them over. Perhaps it's a compliment.
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